coffee date two

welcome to my second (late) coffee date!! i started writing it last night but i had to go to bible study. this time i got in the christmas spirit with a peppermint mocha – soy and no whip, of course. starbucks is one of few coffee shops that offer vegan mocha flavoring. if only they’d do the same with pumpkin spice!!

today i want to talk about something i’ve been hearing since i was little, but that in recent years has been directed at me: hateful words about “rich” people. first of all, what is “rich?” who is truly wealthy? from my childhood the people at my schools who were considered rich had certain brands of jeans and the latest phones, and were able to go to places like disneyland and cancun. but in high school i was the one who was being called “rich” despite having none of those things, because i was in sports and the assumption was that all my equipment and clothing was new (if it was, it was on sale). now i hear it because i go to a private university, but the truth is almost half of the tuition is paid by a scholarship, and the rest is courtesy of my parents’ savings from not buying me fancy things when i was younger, and money left to us when my aunt died. i am not the same kind of “rich” that i identified in middle school, but to some people i have more than they ever will.

according to, several charts with different measurements all show that the poorest people in america are richer than most of the wealthiest people in other countries. to some, the type of downward comparison this encourages is helpful, because then they can remember how blessed they are. yet to many people, this is infuriating. after all, being rich compared to a mexican is only relevant for someone currently living in mexico. i’ve always believed that even if something isn’t the worst thing that could happen, if it’s the worst thing that has happened to you then it matters. this is important to keep in mind, especially when children are learning at a younger and younger age that being wealthy is something to be ashamed of. how are we meant to encourage our children to pursue lofty goals when at the same time we convince them that the economically successful are somehow stealing from them and that they don’t deserve their money?

let me know your thoughts on this topic or any similar experiences you had growing up!! i love to understand more about what i’ve experienced and how accurate it is to reality. have a great weekend and stay warm *^^*


3 thoughts on “coffee date two

  1. Hi Lexxie, great question you pose here! So I’m a little stuck in this paradox myself, by trade. I’m a businessman, I studied business and finance in grad school. I basically spend 40 hours a week trying to find out ways to help my company make more money. Our family lives in a decently nice house in a nice neighborhood. And we have some nice things, but we’re not materialistically focused people. At the same time, I have a pretty rebellious heart toward money and ‘keeping up with the Jones.’ Which my neighbors are pretty concerned with, as are a lot of the people I have worked with since entering the business world. A lot of emphasis is about facade, and a lot less is on the poor and the needy, the orphan and the widow (vs Ps 149:6). And I am sick of it. It’s gross. When people are leaving the mall holding Michael Kors and Macy’s handbags and there are homeless people on the street watching them pass by without a second glance, there’s a heart issue at stake. And the poor suffer because of it.

    I think there’s a healthy balance here. Our family’s giving goals and how we manage our money flow out from our relationship with God. Idolatry with materialism is something we try to stay away from (cf Prov 4:23). A lot of American culture is fixated on materialism, as well as ‘one upping’ one another for social status. It’s really a result of a broken world, a broken humanity, searching for sustenance in their hearts’ desires through materialistic things. When in reality, the only thing that can fulfill them is deep intimacy with Jesus. Money is secondary and simply a tool to be used for certain purposes in my opinion. It’s definitely a critical tool in our world of commerce and trade, for essentials like food, water and shelter, but it’s a tool nonetheless subject to a relationship one has with God. As far as comparisons to others, I agree, there is a definitely an important relativistic aspect to bad things that happen to a person. If the worst possible thing that could happen to Person A, though it’s not nearly as bad as what Person B went through, that comparison does not diminish the importance of the bad event that Person A sustained.

    I wouldn’t sweat people’s thoughts on going to a private school…I think as long as the heart is focused on Christ in the circumstance and willing to do what he wants in the circumstance or situation, what someone else thinks is not critical. I’m sure there are people who have similar misgivings about me, but I’m way too socially oblivious to see it, which is probably for the best for my heart haha!

    Have a great weekend!

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      1. Haha! Merry Christmas! Look forward to reading your thoughts! Understood too about people being active on our blogs…it’s always nice after having written a well thought out piece to have good feedback and interaction from the community. Cheers!

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